Regardless of the channels, those with a defined Emotional/Solar Plexus experience their emotions as waves. Think of it like watching the tide come in and go out over several days. Some days, the tide is super gentle and the undulations in the waves are low and lovely. Other days, maybe when a storm is approaching, the waves are higher and they crash against the shore a lot harder. And once the storm passes, you might look out and see the ocean's surface is as smooth as a pane of glass.
A helpful exercise if you have this center defined: keep a timed/dated list of your emotions over the course of, say, a week. Like:
Tuesday, 9am. FRUSTRATION Joyce in accounting drank all the coffee and didn't refill the pot. GOD I HATE THAT BITCH.
Tuesday, 9:15am JOY . J/k. Joyce brought us all donuts and coffee from that fancy bakery down the street. I FUCKING LOVE HER.
Tuesday, 9:17am CONFUSION & IRE Who brings in donuts and only buys glazed and crullers??? I NEED A BOSTON CREME DONUT, JOYCE!
Tuesday, 9:17:35am RELIEF Nevermind. If I don't have a donut, I don't have to feel bad about skipping SoulCycle later.
Maybe that was hyperbolic. Or maybe it wasn't.
Look for patterns. How long does it take for you to shift from one emotion to another, especially around a specific situation? The overall goal for this center is to be wise about your emotional cycle, to understand your personal peaks and valleys and plateaus so that you're always in a place of emotional clarity when making decisions. So how do you do that?
The first rule of having a defined Emotional/Solar Plexus Center: NEVER MAKE DECISIONS WHEN YOU'RE IN YOUR FEELINGS.
The second rule of having a defined Emotional/Solar Plexus Center: NEVER MAKE DECISIONS WHEN YOU'RE IN YOUR FEELINGS.
Just like those of us with this center undefined can engage in some super unhealthy behavior, as can you. For you, though, this manifests as impulsivity, which is making a decision when you're in the highest high or the lowest low of your emotional cycle. Until you figure out what your natural emotional cycle looks and feels like, it's going to be challenging for you to know when you have the requisite emotional clarity to make a decision.
Don't get me wrong though: you still need to feel all your feelings. That's like an imperative part of the process for you. You need to experience your entire emotional range, practice patience and wait out the wave, and THEN decide. This is especially true for relationships. You are definitely not engineered to elope with someone you just met, or agree to move in with someone you met on Craigslist after meeting them for coffee at Starbucks. BAD BAD CALL. You need to feel all your feelings with the people you have relationships with and get a sense of how they react before you're able to really fully commit.
In terms of self-care, your alone time needs to come when you're in the valley of the emotional wave. Take a bath, take a nap, meditate, and allow it to pass. And remember rules 1-2 of the defined Emotional/Solar Plexus Center ;-)