So there are two big questions I get from Generators all the time:
What am I supposed to do while I'm waiting to respond? and
How will I know if I responded to the right thing?
Let's tackle the first question first: What am I supposed to do while I'm waiting to respond? EVERY BREATH WE TAKE IS A RESPONSE. #nevernotresponding I think there's a weird misperception that we can only respond to direct questions or to tasks given to us by the people around us, but that is so limiting. We can respond to ideas, to energies, to invitations, to art, to music, to books, to actions, to topics in discussions...the list just goes on and on.
I humbly present myself as a case study: Six months ago, when I was MISERABLE and debating whether or not to quit my corporate job and start this blog, I had no idea what it would end up looking like or what path it would take, so I started by setting an intention: I want to be self-employed and I want to write. So then I waited for guidance, and while I waited, I immersed myself in topics and ideas that lit me up: I went hiking, because being on the trail always lights me up and while I'm hiking, because my body is engaged and my mind is clear, I often end up receiving synchronicities, pings and downloads. I bought books and started journaling, because reading and writing are two things that creatively turn me on. I felt a pull toward the book The Women Who Run With the Wolves, and in response to some of the ideas in the book, this blog was born. I listened to podcasts and followed the social media accounts of women who were making it happen in the blogging/podcasting/wellness space, and watched what they were doing and how they were running their businesses, and started feeling out what might feel right for me. (Even the day I quit came from a deep vocal UHN-un. That morning, the moment I heard my alarm go off, I just erupted into tears and this guttural involuntary UUUUHHHHHNNNN-UUUUNNNNN just came pouring out of me. My body was literally screaming at me that I could not spend one more day devoting my energy to a job that was literally making me ill). And the entire time I kept checking in with my Sacral energy: did I feel pulled toward something (my ah-HUH 😃) or did I feel a contraction of energy (UHN-un😭)? I just made the conscious decision let go of fear and doubt and decided to really go with my gut and let the universe respond to my intention by giving me the ideas, people and tasks to respond to that would lead me to where I needed to go. And it has worked out so well thus far. In the past six months, I went from depressed, stressed, negative and physically sick to the path back to my growing, creative and intuitive self...and each day just keeps getting better.
And how do you know if you're responding? Well, by taking action, are you:
answering a question?
addressing a need?
filling a void?
If you can answer YES to any one of those questions, even if the action you're taking is creating something, you're responding. I want to be clear: Generators and Manifesting Generators are not here to do the bidding of the other types. But we do need to be discerning about what we give our tremendous Sacral energy to. Once those energetic floodgates open, it's hard to pivot or change course, so our strategy of responding just ensures that whatever action we do decide to take isn't in service to the ego and instead serves either or highest self, the greater good, or both.
If you're just learning to let yourself be led by your Sacral Center, you can practice first with responding to questions or ideas that are from a solid, external source. Then, as you get better at discerning the way your authority or Sacral Center communicates YES or NO to you, start posing questions to yourself. OR try this exercise: read a menu for a restaurant you've never been to before and allow your Sacral to respond with an ah-HUH or UHN-un to every item on the menu. Food is super sensual, and and usually easily elicits a verbal or authentic Sacral reaction. Most of us have been conditioned since we were children away from listening to our gut, and told to use our heads when making decisions, so getting back into this old habit might take some practice.
How will I know if I responded to the right thing? Well, you'll either feel FLOW or FRUSTRATION. For me, flow feels like this buzzing, energetic surge of activity, like words are just pouring out of me and my fingers are struggling to type fast enough to keep up. It's a happy humming of feel-good vibes and even if a task seems like a lot of work, it's joyful work, work that I can't wait to get started doing. I think we're all familiar with what frustration feels like, but I think a KEY thing to keep in mind is frustration is not a feeling that we should beat ourselves up over. Frustration doesn't mean failure. So much of what’s been written about frustration claims that if you feel it, you must be doing something wrong when in fact, as Generators, frustration can be our greatest teacher. It’s through frustration that we attract new things to respond to.
When we feel frustrated, we need to lean into the feeling, pause, and wait for the next thing to respond to. When we pause and wait, the universe usually shows up pretty quickly and provides us with a next step. But fearing or avoiding that frustration response is like trying to have a conversation with someone blindfolded wearing noise-cancelling headphones: frustration and flow are the language the outer world uses to nudge us in the right direction, to teach us what is meant for us and what is not. All we have to do is show up, listen, wait, react and respond. And once we respond to something that is right for us, our Sacral Center kicks on and engages, fueling our efforts until the task is complete.
While we're responding, we might feel our energy plateau a bit. This is not the time to quit. It doesn't necessarily mean we responded to the wrong thing. It just means that we need an additional something to respond to that will reengage our Sacral energy and get us to that next step. Luckily, Generators are MAGNETIC in that we are designed to draw questions out of others, and it's precisely this process of responding --> plateauing --> reengaging --> frustration --> pausing --> receiving --> responding that directs our steps along our path. We just need to remain open-minded and trust that even though the Universe might take us a different way than we envisioned taking, we will ultimately get to our destination.